Can't get you off my mind - or can I?
Love, or rather, the state of being in love, is sometimes too close to obsession, especially if it is unrequited, but also when, after a major break up, you find it hard to forget the past.
Off your mind some keys on how to forget your ex-love more quickly
Love, or rather, the state of being in love, is sometimes too close to obsession, especially if it is unrequited, but also when, after a major break up, you find it hard to forget the past. This is no news; singers from all traditions have sung to broken hearts and ex-partners for ages. Take Aerosmiths Tell me what it takes to let you go, for instance, or Air Supplys Cant live (if living is without you).
Weve grown to the beat of love songs, beautiful ones at that, with great music and better lyrics, but they all share quite a masochistic idea of love. We just need to stop to wonder: Is loving someone who does not love us any longer or who upsets our lives worthwhile? If our love is unrequited, isnt that enough reason to stop loving? Can I be friends with someone who doesnt feel they are my friend? Being loved and having a good time are two reasons for falling for someone, but if it doesnt happen, why waste your time and insist? Our teachers and our parents teach us to remember, but nobody teaches us to forget. If you need to get somebody off your mind, take these practical tips into account but at the same time, go over and review your ideas on love.
Keys to forget
Imagine someone else living up to your expectations
Avoid being alone for a long time.
Take up those activities youve always wanted to try.
Open up to the chance of meeting new people.
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Take off your sight anything that reminds you of your ex-love.
Dont listen to the music you used to listen to when you were together.
Avoid dating in places where you used to meet your ex-love.
Dont hang out in places where he/she hangs out.
Draw up a list of his/her defects, it will help you forget him/her more quickly.
Avoid meeting friends in common for a while, unless they are very close to you.
Look for new projects concerning your work or new studies.
Redecorate. Change couches and mirrors or whatever you feel has his/her energy.
Take up a new hobby: painting, handicrafts, writing.
Learn something new: playing an instrument, a language, yoga.
Think that you have broken up with someone, but not with your ability to love.
Subscribe for a dating or friends agency on the internet (I met my husband this way).
Remember that the word CRISIS was synonymous with opportunity for the ancient Greeks.
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Mabel Iam is best known as a psychotherapist and expert in relationships, but she's also a favorite advisor to politicians and celebrities, and the author of several award-winning, best-selling books around the world, Mabel Iam has rapidly become the number one self-help expert in the US. Iam produces successful TV and radio shows and is a keen hostess.
Her books on sexuality, psychology, angels and psycho-astrology, are best sellers
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